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Orang tua murid di Korea memonitor segala aspek kehidupan bersekolah anak-anaknya Orang tua murid di Korea memonitor segala aspek kehidupan bersekolah anak-anaknya
Para orang tua di Korea tampaknya gemar memonitor kehidupan sekolah anaknya, selalu menunggu di luar sekolah tiap hari, mengganggu para guru, dan menggunakan aplikasi... Orang tua murid di Korea memonitor segala aspek kehidupan bersekolah anak-anaknya

parent-and-childPara orang tua di Korea tampaknya gemar memonitor kehidupan sekolah anaknya, selalu menunggu di luar sekolah tiap hari, mengganggu para guru, dan menggunakan aplikasi grup chat untuk memastikan anak mereka melakukan yang terbaik di sekolah.

Penerbit editorial di koran Hankyoreh pada 11 Mei membeberkan beberapa cara orang tua mengontrol dan memonitor tiap gerakan anak mereka.

Berdasarkan penulis, “Apakah boleh aku membiarkan mereka bermain?” adalah salah satu pertanyaan yang sering ditanyakan di konseling orang tua di sekolah. Diskusi akan forum yang membahas bermain vs belajar kerap digelar. Orang tua anak yg lebih muda, menentukan berapa jam anak mereka diperbolehkan bermain. Sedangkan orang tua anak yg lebih tua, mereka berdebat apakah baik membiarkan anak-anak bermain bersama tanpa mengawasi orang dewasa, dan buku apa yang harus mereka pelajari.

Ada beberapa cerita bahwa beberapa ibu mengantarkan anak-anak mereka ke sekolah dan menunggu mereka pulang di sekitar sekolah ketika hampir waktu pulang. Mereka duduk di bangku dan melihat anak mereka di luar ketika gym, dan melambaikan tangan ke anak-anak mereka ketika kontak mata. Jika ada sekolah yang melarang orang tua masuk ke dalam lingkup sekolah, mereka akan menunggu di luar gerbang mendengarkan anak-anak mereka bermain di lapangan.

Para murid SD biasa mengganti tempat duduk mereka tiap bulan, dan para guru dibanjiri komplain dan permintaan dari para orang tua yang ingin diberi tempat duduk di sebelah murid terpandai atau duduk di tempat yang paling menguntungkan.

Jaman sekarang, memasang CCTV di TK Korea sudah legal, penulis memperkirakan memasang CCTV di ruang kelas akan diperbolehkan dalam waktu dekat. Akan tetapi, mereka berkata bahwa orang tua anak sekolah lebih baik daripada CCTV. Separuh ibu di tiap kelas menghabiskan waktu mereka memilik agenda harian kelas anak mereka di grup chat. Mereka saling menanyakan materi, evaluasi dan PR. Mereka juga belajar apa yang membuat guru marah hari itu, atau murid mana yang keluar. Informasi yang dibagi juga berkisar tentang toko roti mana yang paling disuka para guru atau apakah para guru lebih suka Americano daripada latte.

Pada pergantian semester, para orang tua mulai chat privat satu sama lain di luar chat grup. Terjadi periode bulan madu di awal semester di bulan Maret dimana para orang tua berbagi apapun yang mereka tau untuk membantu satu sama lain, tapi semuanya sia-sia setelah itu karena persaingan antar murid menjadi sengit.

Mereka juga bertukar informasi tentang tes yang akan datang, tapi semuanya berubah setelah hasilnya keluar. Orang tua yang kecewa dengan nilai anaknya mengeluarkan frustasi mereka melalui chat privat dengan mengklaim bahwa mereka yang berkata tidak memaksa anak mereka belajar sesungguhnya telah mengirim anak mereka ke beberapa kelas ekstra.

Berdasarkan penulis, masalahnya adalah para orang tua didera perasaan khawatir jika anak mereka membuat satu saja kesalahan -baik itu memilih buku yang salah atau membiarkan beberapa kesempatan lewat- mereka akan merusak masa depan anak mereka. Hal itulah yang membuat kompetitif masyarakat Korea makin menjadi sekarang ini, yang membuat para orang tua mengharuskan memberikan kesempatan terbaik untuk sukses.

Korean Helicopter Parents Monitor Every Aspect of Child’s School Life

Parents in Korea appear to have become the ultimate helicopter parents, turning to waiting outside schools all day, harassing teachers, and using group chats on messaging apps to ensure that their child has the best possible opportunities at school.

An editorial published in the newspaper Hankyoreh on May 11 outlines some of the ways that parents are controlling and monitoring every moment of their children’s lives.

According to the writer, “Is it okay if I let them play?” is one of the most commonly asked questions on counseling forums for parents of schoolkids. Intense discussions are held on these forums about the issue of playing versus studying. For parents of younger kids, they deliberate about how many hours of the day they should let them play. For those with older kids, they debate if it’s okay to let kids play together without a supervising adult, and what workbooks they should be studying with.

There are stories of mothers who take their kids to school and then wait around nearby until they’re finished with classes. They sit on benches and watch as their kids do gym class outside, and wave at them if they catch their eye. Others at schools where parents aren’t allowed through the school gates wait outside the fence to hear their kids playing on the grounds.

In addition, kids have their assigned seats switched every month in elementary school, and teachers are flooded with complaints and requests from parents who want their kids to be placed next to the best possible student or put in the most advantageous spot.

Now that it’s legal for CCTV to be installed in kindergartens in Korea, the writer wonders if it’s possible that they’ll soon be allowed in classrooms. However, they say that the parents of schoolkids are even better than CCTV. Half of the mothers in each class spend their time nitpicking the events of the day in their kids’ classes in group chats. They ask each other questions about required materials, evaluations, and homework. They also learn about what made the teacher angry that day, or which student got up out of turn. Information is also shared about which bakery makes the bread that the teacher likes the most, or whether the teacher likes Americanos or lattes.

As the semester progresses, parents also begin to use private chats to talk about each other outside of the group chat. There’s a honeymoon period in the beginning of the semester in March, when the parents kindly share whatever they know to help each other out, but everything falls apart after that as competition between students grows fierce.

They also exchange information about upcoming tests with each other, but everything changes once the test results come out. Parents who are disappointed with their child’s marks take out their frustration in private chats by claiming that those who had said they don’t force their kids to study have actually been sending them to several extra classes.

According to the writer, the issue here is that parents are wracked with worry that if they make a single error – whether it’s choosing the wrong book or letting some critical opportunity slip by – they will ruin their child’s future. It all therefore comes back to the intense competitiveness of Korean society today, which has necessitated that parents go to extreme lengths to give their children the best possible chance at success.

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